Wedding Bells!!!

So have you girls been through the arranged marriage procedures????

Wanted a fair, slim, very beautiful, homely, convent-educated, God-fearing, vegetarian girl for a 28/6.0” engineer boy…Excuse me anything else??A typical newsprint ad of a guy seeking an alliance…
And the first phase of horror for the girl.

Getting into this arranged marriage procedure is no different from a job hunt. I will tell you how….

To begin with, the guys family will start collecting horoscopes, the ones which match, are the short listed candidates. The short listed candidates are arranged for a round of technical interview…i.e. the guys parents would speak to the girl. This interview is the most difficult one to crack, basing on the number of people sitting in the interview panel. If its just the parents, they stick to questions on your expertise on cooking and house maintenance and stuff like that. But if the panel compromises of people from the previous generation…be assured girl…you have a long way to go. And now, basing on the interview procedures, they might have more rounds of technical interviews (with uncles, aunts, cousins and more relatives).

If you luckily pass all rounds of interviews successfully, now is the turn of the guy to come in picture. The guy is some Mr. Engineer who earns in six figures and settled in the United States of A. This person is apparently too busy to even go to the LOO which the mother (who pathetically believes that being in the US (of A) is the ultimate thing on earth) just can’t stop repeating. So the, MIGHT BE, mother-in-law wants the girl to go on so-and-so time to chat with her son. So the girl who is a software engineer herself and is assumed to be hatching eggs in her office is asked to KINDLY ADJUST (does anyone care!!!???). This is more like a HR round. He asks very normal questions, your hobbies, your interests and your job and career, which are treated like a consolation prize given to you.

“Oh great…nice career profile that you have…good for now…I am very impressed…but after marriage…well we can discuss your job”
“I am going to staying in the US or the next 5 years at least, and you have to be here with me…so you need to manage”
“Now that my parents already like you…this discussion is just a formality…anyway I am a way too busy to get involved into this”

AWHHHH!!!....By this time, you are already feeling like screaming out of the door.

And after your HR round is done…it’s the time for negotiations on expected CTC (read DOWRY). And once the figures are settled the guys parents give you the offer letter as the girl being appointed as the daughter-in-law of the house.
So can anyone puhleeese tell me where is the role of the girl’s decision in the entire episode, despite of the fact that the girl is also a similar software engineer earning no less and no less busy than the Mr. Engineer. ALAS!!! That’s how our society is.

But as they say, marriages are made in heaven and someone somewhere is there who is made only for you…you just need to wait for the correct time to come, and that time will bring in the Mr. Right. And trust me gals, it does happen.