Lemme cite an example from a book I was reading recently.
There is this main mail protagonist who is walking down a hotel lobby while his lady love is watching. She notices that he is attracting all kind of female attention, and women in the lobby are all stares for him. She is jealous and taunts the guy, who in turn accuses her of being insecure and possessive.
Now, I asked Db and also a couple of men, if they would enjoy that kind of attention from the female folks. Without exception all men I asked said that yes they would love that kinda attention. One of them going to the extent of saying that that''s the dream of every man. And if the wife/GF is jealous its not his problem and he does not care. Fine...fair enough!!!
Let's now reverse the situation. The woman walks down the lobby and attracts all stares from the male crowd. I am sure she will enjoy the attention too till its healthy and does not turn nasty. But will the man be jealous...YES YES YES!!! possessive...YES YES YES and insecure...mostly that too. And if he is egoistic pig, he'd ask you to dress more conservatively next time. The men kinda agreed to this theory to various degrees and they found that acceptable too.
Then that's not fair. If a woman is jealous, she is possessive and insecure, if a man is jealous he its acceptable and fact of life.
Well now comes the question what would I do if I see Db walking down a lobby and he gets all women staring and drooling at him.
Hmm...I would probably slip my arm into his and walk him off and throw a flying kiss to all the drooling women and say 'See you darlings!!!' and leave them to recover from the shock. *Grin*
The question is what will Db do if the situation is reversed????
There is this main mail protagonist who is walking down a hotel lobby while his lady love is watching. She notices that he is attracting all kind of female attention, and women in the lobby are all stares for him. She is jealous and taunts the guy, who in turn accuses her of being insecure and possessive.
Now, I asked Db and also a couple of men, if they would enjoy that kind of attention from the female folks. Without exception all men I asked said that yes they would love that kinda attention. One of them going to the extent of saying that that''s the dream of every man. And if the wife/GF is jealous its not his problem and he does not care. Fine...fair enough!!!
Let's now reverse the situation. The woman walks down the lobby and attracts all stares from the male crowd. I am sure she will enjoy the attention too till its healthy and does not turn nasty. But will the man be jealous...YES YES YES!!! possessive...YES YES YES and insecure...mostly that too. And if he is egoistic pig, he'd ask you to dress more conservatively next time. The men kinda agreed to this theory to various degrees and they found that acceptable too.
Then that's not fair. If a woman is jealous, she is possessive and insecure, if a man is jealous he its acceptable and fact of life.
Well now comes the question what would I do if I see Db walking down a lobby and he gets all women staring and drooling at him.
Hmm...I would probably slip my arm into his and walk him off and throw a flying kiss to all the drooling women and say 'See you darlings!!!' and leave them to recover from the shock. *Grin*
The question is what will Db do if the situation is reversed????