The Balika Vadhu was my foe for the longest time.
I remember, when we friends used to have discussions around MIL's, I always used to mention that the daily soaps are spoiling the MILs. Particularly the Balika Vadhu. She gave the impression that a woman can be smart and strong, with a career...yet upholding the traditional values of wearing a saree, bindi and covering her head at all times, the quintessential sacrificial bahu who keeps others needs before hers. This makes my MIL also expect the same from me. She expected me to wear a saree to office, all dolled up as a traditional married woman.
When I saw Pratyusha Banerjee on the Big Boss wearing hot pants, I showed it to MIL, to make her realize that Anandi was just a fictional character and no woman in her right mind would be so sacrificial to the point of being stupid.
It was a shocker to know that my foe for the longest time has quit, quit forever.
The subject of abuse and domestic violence is not new to me. I see a lot of women I know being subjected to various degree of abuse by intolerant husbands. I wonder why do women put up with it.
We do not miss a single chance to shout Feminism from our rooftops, but why so many of us make such crappy choices in life. And if we do take a wrong turn, why is it so difficult turn back and start afresh. Why quit!!! The Indian law is so pro women, to the point of being biased. One complain of domestic violence, and the man in question goes to jail, loses his reputation, a police case also means no visas/passport, a dent to his career. Hell...I hear women misusing and abusing these laws. Yet so many are drawn to suicide...why??
Make the guy pay man!!! He abuses you...leave him, get him arrested, hell...get him castrated, but why end your own life. Life is so long, so beautiful, and life gives you so many choices, so many chances to correct where you went wrong. Don't quit, you don't need to.
Depression, is the fact of this generation. All of us have faced it at some point of our life, and if you are reading this you have overcome it too. Some people are not strong enough, lets try to help them. Its not something to be taken lightly. If you see a friend depressed, help them. Encourage them to meet a counsellor or psychiatrist. Meeting a psychiatrist does not mean you are mentally unstable.
It's got me a bit worried, for friends I know are trapped in bad marriages, for my friends and colleagues who stay alone and feel lonely all the time, for this generation which seems to be mentally very fragile.
I remember, when we friends used to have discussions around MIL's, I always used to mention that the daily soaps are spoiling the MILs. Particularly the Balika Vadhu. She gave the impression that a woman can be smart and strong, with a career...yet upholding the traditional values of wearing a saree, bindi and covering her head at all times, the quintessential sacrificial bahu who keeps others needs before hers. This makes my MIL also expect the same from me. She expected me to wear a saree to office, all dolled up as a traditional married woman.
When I saw Pratyusha Banerjee on the Big Boss wearing hot pants, I showed it to MIL, to make her realize that Anandi was just a fictional character and no woman in her right mind would be so sacrificial to the point of being stupid.
It was a shocker to know that my foe for the longest time has quit, quit forever.
The subject of abuse and domestic violence is not new to me. I see a lot of women I know being subjected to various degree of abuse by intolerant husbands. I wonder why do women put up with it.
We do not miss a single chance to shout Feminism from our rooftops, but why so many of us make such crappy choices in life. And if we do take a wrong turn, why is it so difficult turn back and start afresh. Why quit!!! The Indian law is so pro women, to the point of being biased. One complain of domestic violence, and the man in question goes to jail, loses his reputation, a police case also means no visas/passport, a dent to his career. Hell...I hear women misusing and abusing these laws. Yet so many are drawn to suicide...why??
Make the guy pay man!!! He abuses you...leave him, get him arrested, hell...get him castrated, but why end your own life. Life is so long, so beautiful, and life gives you so many choices, so many chances to correct where you went wrong. Don't quit, you don't need to.
Depression, is the fact of this generation. All of us have faced it at some point of our life, and if you are reading this you have overcome it too. Some people are not strong enough, lets try to help them. Its not something to be taken lightly. If you see a friend depressed, help them. Encourage them to meet a counsellor or psychiatrist. Meeting a psychiatrist does not mean you are mentally unstable.
It's got me a bit worried, for friends I know are trapped in bad marriages, for my friends and colleagues who stay alone and feel lonely all the time, for this generation which seems to be mentally very fragile.
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